By Rickey Miller
“It goes down in the DM’s,” according to the hit song Down In The DM by Yo Gotti. Most would agree that social media has opened the door for meeting new people and hopefully finding “the one.” While, it may not be the most traditional way of finding love – it is definitely one of the most common ways in today’s society to start that initial conversation. In fact, according to the Pew Research Center –
“11% of American adults—and 38% of those who are currently “single and looking” for a partner—have used online dating sites or mobile dating apps”
So why the trend in using social media as a tool to find your next Mr. Right or shall we say Mr. Right Now? Well, most would agree that approaching your potential is much easier when you don’t have to do it face-to-face. While this is the case, there are some ground rules that must be set when it comes to social media and dating. Of course, DIG is here to give you the scoop on the do’s and don’ts of social media dating.
Plain and simple…don’t be stalker’ish! If you are going to contact someone on social media like for instance – Instagram, do not like 30 pictures in a row with the attempt to get your admirer’s attention. Trust us, you’ll get their attention just not in the way you think. Don’t be surprise if you notice that you’ve been blocked.
“Dang, that bathing suit pic is HAWT!” is probably not the best way to open up a conversation with someone you are interested in. Instead, if you decide to “slide in the DM’s” do so by starting a normal, non-creepy conversation.
Don’t send inappropriate material!
Do we really need to explain…just don’t do it!
Don’t be thirsty.
Don’t start out the conversation asking for a date or for the digits. Wait at least a few days and see how the conversations flow before asking for the phone number. Chances are if the conversation is going well, the phone number will come naturally.
Take your signs.
Don’t be gullible. If you are pouring your heart out, putting forth effort to message someone in hopes of getting to know them and you don’t feel the same in return…take the hint and stop reaching out. It’s very possible that the person may not want to be rude and simply tell you they aren’t interested.
Check your research.
Do a little research before you decide to reach out to someone on social media. Here’s a quick little checklist of things to look for…
- Make sure they aren’t in a current relationship
- Check to see what type of activities they are interested in. It helps for conversation starters.
- Check their sexual orientation. She may not be that into you.
- Try to find out your interest’s age.
Don’t take it TOO serious.
While social media is a great tool for meeting new people, treat it just as you would any other social setting. Don’t expect too much from it. Use social media as a gateway to meeting people not your only means at finding bae.
Mostly importantly be honest about what you are looking for. Do not proclaim that you are interested in a “serious relationship” if you are looking only looking for a hookup.