By Holly A. Phillips — @OrangeJulius7
Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. I love the fall weather, a few days off from work, and of course, the food.
I love to cook (especially for a guy), I really like to eat, and the fact that pigging out is perfectly acceptable for this holiday is just the whipped topping on my pumpkin pie.
Almost every year, I’ve traveled to spend Turkey Day with my best friend and her family. My family is split, and frankly, I just don’t do all of the drama.
Last Thanksgiving, I’d just lost my job and had no business traveling. Thankfully, a friend in-town invited me to spend the day with her and her son.
Although it was just the three of us, we had a fantastic feast, capped off with lots of wine. It was a great, great day.
The truth is, I think of Thanksgiving as the official start of the holiday season, and while that’s exciting, it’s also the most difficult time of year to be single.
It’s chilly outside, there’re couples snuggled up all over Instagram, and it’s just… depressing.
I have always wished that my Thanksgiving Day would be filled with turkey, and a little love from a sig-other.
I came close one year. I was head-over-heels for this guy and I invited him to come home to Indiana with me. He would fit right in — hunting gear and all. I even offered to cover his flight.
But the sad truth was, I was more of a booty call to him than anything significant. I don’t think he even told his family about me, while I was gushing to everyone how great he was, like a fool.
After we parted ways the following year, I read an article that outlined all the benefits of being single on Thanksgiving. No Stress! No worrying about overstuffing yourself! No introducing-the-guy-to-the-family drama!
True, but no matter how much I kid myself, that sting of being single cuts a little deeper this time of year.
So, what is one to do to combat holiday blues? I’m stuffing my Thanksgiving weekend with everything that makes me happy.
My best friend is coming into town, and we’re spending Thanksgiving Eve at the bar. There’s almost nothing a tumbler of spiked cider can’t cure!
On Thanksgiving morning, we’re doing something I have always wanted to do: we are volunteering to serve approximately 8,000 people in need. We will be plopping cranberry sauce into containers for delivery.
After that? It’s kitchen time — cocktails and Turkey Day food, and of course, watching the Macy’s Day parade while recovering from a food coma.
I really cannot wait.
I know the holidays aren’t just for the coupled, and there really are advantages to flying solo this time of year.
At the very least, I’m happy that I’ve got the freedom to do whatever I want this year, and I don’t have to worry about a schedule or what to wear. I’ll be wearing sweatpants and I’ll be drunk before 3 p.m.
If you’ve found love, that’s definitely something to be thankful for this year. But if you’re single, I say go ahead and be thankful that you’re not with the wrong person. And while you’re at it, have another piece of pie — treat yourself!
Read more about surviving the holidays as a singleton on Holly’s blog, TheBitterLemon.com.